Wednesday, November 19, 2014

Be the punchline

Take a couple min to watch this video

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w2MORc0ZCo8

I am a big proponent of change your view and you'll  change your experience...

Also of course the law of attraction.

This is very important in my business because of the nature of the extreme interpersonal exchanges that take place.. not only bodily but 'personally'.

On the odd occasion like today.. when someone texts me or calls me and when I ask how long of an appt they say 'depends how good you are'.. I just roll my eyes (to myself of course).

Do they not get that half if not more of the exchange in the session is from them???

How good are you? I want to respond.. but I keep my mouth shut (usually but not always.. ha!)

I don't generally 'script' an appt unless the person is a completely shy 'dead fish'.. and then I just go into certain routines

In that way I respond to them in their way.. but my way? it's to be gregarious.. chat about whatever flows and if there's a lot in common I have to be sure to lead things away from conversation before we spend the whole time chatting..

Anyway.. back to the video.. and both the law of attraction and being a giver rather than a taker..

It is more noticeable in this job than any other that when I'm in a good mood and feeling good about myself I attract more pleasant clients that are like-minded. If I'm in a bad mood.. feeling lousy energetically or physically I get pain in the ass 'potential' clients bugging me that I don't want or even showing up and getting through my radar than I would like because I'm 'off my game'. Not that I can't handle them.. but then it clearly shows me that 'what I do not want' and the pendulum swings to clearly define 'what I do want'.

So on to the 'giving' part. I wrote last night about role-play.. that and other scenarios where a guy has a strong desire to meet me specifically or just someone 'like me' in that I fulfill a fantasy.. just tickles me. I love being 'a present' to someone and when I get myself a present I know the same glee.

To see an unrequited fantasy fulfilled for someone is quite the honor for me.. and I treasure that.

I can be extremely generous when approached the right way.. as I believe we all can..

So don't start or end a conversation with 'depends how good you are'.. that just ruined any platform for me to wow you with and surprise you.

Don't challenge a person to give you a good time.. be the good time yourself and you'll reap the rewards :)






Tuesday, November 18, 2014

mom role-play

So.. after doing myfriendshotmom back in 2008 and then some fetish clips for jerkygirls that involved step-mom/tutor/teacher and even mom role-play scenes.. I've been getting really good at doing similar scenarios in role-play appts with my clients.

I do love my regular sessions a lot.. and pride myself on being 'me' in my appts and having a genuine connection with my clients.

Role-play doesn't involve a true connection.. I have to be 'someone else'. For this reason a lot of my colleagues are uncomfortable with role-play. It takes them out of their comfort zone.

I get it.. I totally do... but I'm very comfortable now with role-play and surprise myself sometimes at how it rolls off my tongue and I can instantly switch it up.

With lots of direction given during the appt.. it doesn't run comfortably and I'm a bit mentally drained by the end.. this is why I only offer 'mild dom' because it's still not my forte and it doesn't flow as easily.. but the older stronger female (power dynamic not necessarily physically stronger) works for me. So if it's just a wee bit of a scenario and I can flow with it.. I shine :)

Last night was a prime example.. however I almost didn't take the booking..
It was booked by text.. I'm fine with that if it is simple and I get a good vibe.. but I tell the guy to jump in the lake if it's too much texting and too many questions.

He didn't get straight to the point and I was tired after a long day of 1) early travel from one province to the other.. and 2) it was getting late for me.

He asked about fetish.. to which I replied.. depends.. what is it?
He says.. well you've played friends hot mom well..
How about not the friend?

I was tired and slow.. so I didn't get it right away and then was getting frustrated with the back and forth.

Anyway.. I agreed to see him.. and duh.. he meant just play mom. not friend of mom.

So he came in the door.. and he was a hot 40ish well built guy with nice tats.. yum

I gave him a hug and then went right into character.. he had a hole in his shirt.. so I berated him like a mom would for going out in public with that.. I didn't raise my son to dress like that!

'Take off that shirt' I demanded.. and 'I will darn that hole'.. which is when I saw his tats and exclaimed 'when did you get tattoos'? Did you ask dad before you did that?

He looked sheepish and said no....

I said I was very disappointed in his behaviour and held out my hand demanding his allowance back. (cute way to get my fee without breaking character).. I was pretty please with myself for thinking so quickly on the spot when I was tired.. but I was having fun with it.

I said have you also been smoking? doing drugs? having sex??? He replied smoking but not drugs or sex.. yet.

(I broke character here for a second to ask.. 'is this what you had in mind'?) yes.. he smiled.

jumping back into mom mode..

I told him he wasn't too big to be spanked and to get his pants down and lay across my knees.. which he did..

Then I had him sit beside me and say.. I guess it's not too bad that you got the tats at 16 yrs of age (he wasn't really 16 FYI!.. he was a well grown adult man- this is just the role-play)

After all you're practically a grown man.. just so long as you haven' t had sex yet...

Was he getting good grades still at school and were the girls not to distracting? which is when I catch him looking down at my cleavage and I ask him if boobs in particular are distracting..

You get the rest I'm sure :) lol... I reward him the best way I know how to encourage him to stop smoking if I give him at home what he craves at school...

Wednesday, October 29, 2014

new selfies




 




Finally! An East Coast tour... St. John's NFLD, Halifax, NS and Saint John NB

I have been meaning to tour out to the East Coast for several years... and I'm finally putting on my big girl pants and flying out there.

I'll be open and honest.. I haven't travelled much in the past few years because I had to go on thyroid meds about 3 years ago and I had bad side effects from it (went off them after a week). Follow up to that is that I now have slight anxiety issues when I travel.. so it's been baby steps to overcome this..

Trips to Toronto from Ottawa were all I managed for a while because I was seeing family and friends as well as repeat clients so it was more in my comfort zone.

I finally said.. 'fuck this shit' and got a move on.. big time. I moved to be closer to family and I absolutely love seeing them so often instead of basically once a year..

I got on a plane a couple months ago and went to Calgary.. My close friends are very proud of me ha ha..

I have toured in Ontario by car several times now.. and it's getting to be more normal for me so pat on my back to myself for that too.

I don't post my trips in advance because all the inquiries prior to going set off my anxiety about the trip! so now.. my big girl pants are getting bigger and I actually pre-post for my trips..

lol.. my friends are really proud of me now :) and I'm so excited!!!

FYI.. for my thyroid issues I only take natural supplements and herbs now and it's slowly improving.. B12, kelp, glandular thyroid extract.. etc. I take lots of other stuff too for general health. Ashwanganda, Astragalus, Milk Thistle, Relora as examples.. oh and indole-3-carbinole for breast health :) gotta love that stuff.. it's a substance found in cruciferous vegetables that converts bad estrogen to good.. for you women reading or men who are concerned about their wives/girlfriends breast health.. please read up on it!

the Big Cock Myth...at least for me!

This past week I have had two requests to do interracial porn with big dick performers... uh.. no thanks.
Why? I really truly do not like big cock!
Yes.. it's good to have a big dick in porn so it's easily viewed going in and out.. but the biggest dick I ever did a movie with was Sledgehammer my good friend, colleague and for my last month in LA roommate.

We were friends. good friends.. but we only fucked for that one scene..
believe me.. I would get drunk and we would go out an party in LA and I would get horny and contemplate it again.. but then I'd sober up just the tiniest bit to remember that it fucking hurt!

I haven't had kids... so maybe that's why.. but unlike my giant boobs.. my pussy is small.. and I like a normal sized cock. I do know friends of mine who get very excited by a larger 'member'.. but I just want to run away! ha ha..

So often when clients book me.. they apologize for their size.. saying I must be used to bigger ones.. uh.. hell to the no! I never get used to the giant ones.. and no.. you likely won't see me doing any monster cock videos or mandingo in movies.. sorry if that disappoints but I like an average 4 3/4 (I think that's the average) to 6 inches in general.. I can handle bigger but you gotta be very very gentle and kiss me a lot to get me wet (or lube me up good)